Being called a “bitch” is one of the most frequent gendered insults a woman is likely to hear during her life.
- Women are usually called a “bitch” when they’re asserting their own opinion, boundaries or needs.
When I was in my early 20’s I found an apartment on Craigslist that had 3 other roommates. One of the rooms had a high turnover, a young guy had moved in about 6 months prior to this story and had already shown a high level of disrespect for mutually shared space, personal boundaries and personal hygiene (the stacks of dishes would get so bad there was flies.) So when our 2 other roommates decided to move out, I decided to stay and apply to take over the whole apartment, turning it into a home office. Well, he decided that he also wanted to stay and when I told him that I’d be applying for the apartment solo, regardless of his expressed desire to stay, so he shouted at me… “but I told you I WANT TO LIVE HERE” followed up with a threatening… “bitch.”
The reason he thought I was being “bitchy” was because I wasn’t giving into his demands that I put his needs above my own.
2. We don’t live in the 1950’s anymore.
In years past, women were harshly judged for being anything but “sugar and spice and everything nice” so there wasn’t a lot of leeway for assertive, strong-willed women. My mothers generation was often told that “boys don’t like bitches” and
3. It’s empowering to not care about what other people think.
Another common trait of a “bitch” is not caring what other people think, and there is an incredible freedom in that. Of course, that’s not to say that she doesn’t care what anyone thinks, only that she chooses who’s opinion to value.